Hurts

August 13th, 2012 Arguments, Boundaries, Relationships

4 comments to Hurts

• Aaron Wolf

  August 13, 2012 at 10:24 am · Reply

  This reminds me of linguistic ideas about awareness of subjectivity.
  Most objective wording: The toe hurts.
  MIddle: The toe hurts me / My toe hurts (some languages use one or the other construction)
  Most subjective wording: I feel a pain in my toe.

  This goes from supposing that whatever you experience is objective reality to only describing subjective experience without making any objective claims…

• Michael S

  August 14, 2012 at 3:24 am · Reply

  nice and succinct

• ank

  July 26, 2013 at 1:02 am · Reply

  This seems to be typical for a number of mothers who measure their self-worth by the extent to which they can keep their kids away from any frustration and as much as possible in their “joyous” mode. I know a few. Their guilt immediately sets in when kid cries or complains.

• ank

  July 26, 2013 at 1:07 am · Reply

  I also know a couple who fits this pattern. One has chronic back pain and often has a hard time sleeping at night, gets grumpy and annoyed and frustrated about this and the partner “helps” with angry, frustrated response like: “What do you want ME to do? I am already doing my best staying up with you at night and listening to your moaning of pain and feeling horrible that I can’t help you. Why do you do this to me?”